Why do you want to be a Master?

Why do I want to be a Master?  This question has been asked in many different ways, for many different reasons on every forum I have been to.  And the reasons are as varied as the Men that are on the boards.  But, here is my reasoning, and the thoughts behind it.

Being a Master has been something that I was building to for many years, without knowing it.  I started down the path on the other side of the whip, not know why things just didn’t feel right.  But, in the end, I saw the light, thanks to bina, who first got me to read the Gorean books.  Of course, she warned me not to think about the sex in the books, but that was something different entirely.

Yes, I enjoy being the one in charge, but then I could simply call my self a Dom, and be over it.  Even following the Gorean pathos, doesn’t mean that I have to be a Master, just a Man.  But, there is just something about having a girl at my beck and call that gets to me.  Having the ability to tell her to do something, and know that she will, even if it is something that normally she would never do, just to please me.  And that, my friends, is key one.

Key two is simple.  I just enjoy it.  That fucking simple.  If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be in the lifestyle at all, now would I?  Maybe in five or six years I would find my way to it, or I could be like the 60 and 70 year old Doms that are messaging my 18 year old slave, looking for a night on the town.  But that is nothing that I want to do.  At that point, I might as well just curl up and die.

I really don’t have much more to say on this issue, at least that I can think of with a stuffy head, but I may add more in the future.

What does being a Master mean to you?

As I said, I would be taking some time to, in a way, reply to something that was posted on the girls page.  It, obviously, about being a slave, but I am not one, so I had to change one letter.  So, here we go.

Being a Master is different than being a Dom.  In truth, being a Dom is easy, all you have to be is bossy.  That’s it.  Being a Master brings out much more then that.  It brings out the want to protect that which you own, with your life if need be.  It also means loving in some way the slaves that you have in your possion. It also means taking care of those slaves, even if you are wanting something different.

Generally, I’m not over protective.  I fully believe in Darwinism.  That does not mean that I will not protect that which is mine.  If the girls are in danger from something, being it physical, or emotional, it is my responsiblity to take care of the issues.  And that may not always be the most fun thing that I had planned.  It may mean less sex, or I stay in for a day, or that I just sit still and listen, even when I have other plans for the day.  But that is less important then the health of the girls that have given themselves to me.

There are many that ignore that, that will allow their property to get sick, and still think that the girl/boy can serve them with the same gusto that they did a few weeks ago.  And those are the ones that will have a broken toy in a few weeks.  It’s that simple.  When a person is sick, they are not able to do a fifth of the stuff they normally can, let alone with grace and cunning.

Luckily, I have yet to have to defend the girls in a physical sense.  No, that does not mean kicking the shit out of anyone that looks at them, or even touches them.  I mean more that they have not been attacked.  And that is good.  However, it’s also my job to defend them against that.  Well, if I can.

As for love.  There are many out there that do not “love” the people that have given themselves over to the person they call Master.  I do not mean love as in the classical sense, but just a general love of the slave.  If you do not in some way love the person, you are not going to look out for them in the same way you would a girl/boyfriend, or such.  And that can cause emotional harm.

That does not mean that you have to be “in-love” with them, just that you have to have love for your property.  I have been lucky, and found two girls that I can really love, fully, and have it returned.  Many will not be able to find something similar.  However, if I did not love them, I would have bina up cleaning now, even though she has caught the plauge, and I will punish rana for missing class, even though she caught the plague.  (Doesn’t mean they won’t be punished for not being pleasing, but it’ll be something like saying “I’m Punished” for it).

Both of the above points really tie into this one.  Taking care of the property.  A Master must take care of his property, even if there are other things that he would like to do.  That includes feeding, clothing, a roof over their head, and entertainment.  I include knoweldge into the pile, as I enjoy a thought out debate.  Taking a girl that has fallen and hurt herself into your arms for comfort may be enough, or rushing her to the ER may be what is order, but you are still taking care of them.

Emotionally, it may be harder.  Neither in person, or online, have I met a person that calls themselves slave that do not have some emotional issues.  Normally, it stems from previous relationships (either a bad Master, or a person that would not allow themselves to be what they wished to be.)  And that can be rough for everyone involved, but it is something that must be worked through.

Gorean – The Philosophies from the Books of Gor

Now, the name of this site is Gorean Refuge. But what does that really mean? And why would I say that it’s a refuge for Goreans when I’m the only one that blogs here? The whole point of this post is to explain why I feel the way I do about something that means alot to me, the philosophies from Dr. John Lang, aka, John Norman’s Books of Gor. Now, to some, this may offend, so please leave now if that is the case.

Cover of Tarnsman of Gor Now, as can be seen from the picture at the left, a mostly nude woman with her hands in shackles, and that is the image that most people have of Gor. They see it as an attack on feminist values (true), and a want to enslave the population (untrue). The books themselves were meant as a way for the Good Doctor to get his ideals out to the masses, as, at the time, he was black listed from publishing do to his views on Natural Selection. What that means is a part of any population is going to be naturally dominant over another part. And, to his thinking, and that of most Goreans, that is the male part of the population.

Now, I’m not going to go into his research, a simple google search can bring up that information. But, instead, I’m going to go into what I think of his writing, and why I base my life on it. Continue reading

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This was me exploring the mindset of the other half, the Submissive.  Still came out really nice, I think.

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Even on my DA account, I stated this was far from my best work, and I was right.  But, I wrote it, and I like it.  About an old pet of mine, and someone I still talk to on a semi-regular basis.

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Another BDSM related poem.  I really don’t remember the reason for writing this (was posted to DA in June of last year).  It is nice though.

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This is written for my wife. As a disclaimer, me and my wife are in a BDSM M/s relationship known as a Gorean Relationship (information here), it is very, how will do you say, unliked by many feminazis around the world.

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