Gorean and BDSM

Thanks to a post at Alternative Albany, I have come up with another post on Gorean and BDSM lifestyle choices.

And that is, is the Gorean Lifestyle also part of the BDSM world?  Many who identify with Gor would say no, but I have a few thoughts on that.  And those thoughts are as follows.

When someone takes a slave, or becomes one, they are now within the BDSM world.  As I stated in a previous post, BDSM has the terms Bondage, Discipline, Dominate, and Submissive in it.  Therefore, if you take on one of the roles in the acronym, then you are now part of the BDSM world.  Yes, I’m looking at you, Goreans.  Just because you get no sexual excitement from whipping your girl, does not mean anything.  I constantly tell people that MOST relationships can be considered to be BDSM in one form or another, do to the practices in most relationships.

Most Gorean Men want to be separate from BDSM.  Why?  Well, it’s really simple.  Gor has a bad rep as it is, and when you add the bad rep of BDSM into it, then there are issues.  When many Goreans don’t understand switches, or safe words, then there is an issue when the BDSMers start complaining about “What the hell do you mean you don’t use safewords?”  The problems that causes are not small.

So, can someone who follows the Gorean Ideal NOT be part of the BDSM scene?  Well, yes.  If they never take a slave.  If they never are a slave.  If they never punish or are punished, because of the Gorean Ideals.  Then, yes, they are no longer part of BDSM.  But, as long as at least ONE of those parts are in the relationship, then you are a member of the general BDSM scene, and can be considered to be following a BDSM Lifestyle.

RPers versus Lifestyle in Gor

This is another one that deals with Gor itself, not Cartoons, or BDSM in general. Now, what some don’t know is that there are two sides to those that follow the Gorean Philosophies, the RPers, and the Lifestylers. Now, there is a difference, and the debate on which is correct will rage forever, but, again, this is about MY views, not the views of everyone else in the world.

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Gorean – The Philosophies from the Books of Gor

Now, the name of this site is Gorean Refuge. But what does that really mean? And why would I say that it’s a refuge for Goreans when I’m the only one that blogs here? The whole point of this post is to explain why I feel the way I do about something that means alot to me, the philosophies from Dr. John Lang, aka, John Norman’s Books of Gor. Now, to some, this may offend, so please leave now if that is the case.

Cover of Tarnsman of Gor Now, as can be seen from the picture at the left, a mostly nude woman with her hands in shackles, and that is the image that most people have of Gor. They see it as an attack on feminist values (true), and a want to enslave the population (untrue). The books themselves were meant as a way for the Good Doctor to get his ideals out to the masses, as, at the time, he was black listed from publishing do to his views on Natural Selection. What that means is a part of any population is going to be naturally dominant over another part. And, to his thinking, and that of most Goreans, that is the male part of the population.

Now, I’m not going to go into his research, a simple google search can bring up that information. But, instead, I’m going to go into what I think of his writing, and why I base my life on it. Continue reading