On BDSM

As the normal search results for this site are on BDSM and Gor, thought I might give a bit on my thoughts on BDSM, as I allready covered Gor in an earlier post. As with most things related to sexuality and kink, this may not be the post for more of you to read. However, for those intrested in the subjects, I’m not going to put much under a cut unless this becomes REALLY large. And it may become the largest post that I’ve written to date.

Now, some may be asking, what is BDSM? There are a few things this acronym stands for, but my favorBDSM Symbolite is a bit longer then most. That’s Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. There are plenty of people who read those words, and think “oh my god, your into an abusive thing, it’s just not right.” And to those, I say it’s right for me. I am a sadist. I enjoy giving others pain. It’s a safe outlet for that need, and one that my wife enjoys. So, what I’m going to do is go through my thoughts on each subject. I will have other posts that talk about my thoughts on different play types.
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Another kink club closes its doors

Found this while going through BDSM blogs here.  The poster I got it from was House of Void.  Not sure where he got it from (assuming an email list).

“Good evening. This is an update from The Lair/The Cell Block It is with regret the Directors wish to inform the Adult Lifestyle Community that “The Lair” is closed and will not be opened again in THAT location. W/we also wish to inform all of Y/you that this has absolutely nothing to do with BDSM or any of the other activities W/we engage in. It appears that owning items such as “whips, floggers, corset’s, cuffs and a neck enclosure” are considered “adult toys” and as The Lair owned such items, even if they were locked securely in the office. It was deemed by Zoning that we are just as “Adam and Eves and Pricilla’s“. Those items when combined with two or more people are considered “adult entertainment”. It does not matter if those items were O/ours personally, it did not matter if W/we never used them on anyone, Zoning would still consider them “adult toys”. Zoning in North Carolina also states, “adult entertainment cannot be within 500 foot of any establishment that houses children or ANY residential area. Due to this information the Directors regret to say we have no choice but to close The Lair. Additionally even though The Lair will reopen, in a different place, different time, different location, this will take time. The Directors of the Lair will be contacting all sponsors in the near future. If you have question please feel free to contact me personally behind the scenes. The Directors of The Lair/The Cell Block/A Personal Touch, wishes to thank the community for your outstanding support during the grand opening and the opening of the business above. As always you were wonderful. See A/all of you very soon. ~*mysty starr*~”

Happiness/Health index

Ok, so now they’ve come out with an index of your happiness versus your health.

So, who would have thought that those that are constantly sick are not happy?  Not something I would have thought of, no sir.  I thought those that were sick were REALLY happy all the time!

This is just another step in the wrong direction.  Instead of telling us those that are unhappy are struggling, do something about it.  Most people will go through a period of their lives that they struggle in, it’s really a fact of life.  Unless you are REALLY lucky, there will come a time when you can’t make bills, or you just don’t have the money to do as you need.

I find it sad that people had the time to do this.  I also find it sad that 100,000 thousand people are the benchmark for surveys in this country.  Many cities have more people in them then that.  Why not make if half a million, or EVERYONE in the damn country.  Also, how many people are lying?  That’s always a consideration.  As my old Statistics professor said, it is not a science, but a guess.  And that was coming from a man who made hundreds of thousands a year getting statics for major companies in Florida.

Now, I am happy, normally.  However, I have health issues, as do many people in the US.  Doesn’t help that I smoke heavily.  However, that means nothing.  I know plenty of people who have been well off, and happy, but have health issues.

Also, from the article I read, it seems that just because your struggling to make ends meet, your either unhappy or unhealthy, if not both.  So, that means to be happy, I have to have LOTS of money.  Most people that are struggling are doing so because they thought that getting that new car would be a good idea, never mind that Junior needs new braces, and the mortgage is coming due.  Hell, I’ve fucked myself to were I’m normally struggling, but, again, I would rarely say I’m unhappy.

So, my question for you, my faithful reader (and, yes, I mean reader), is this.  Are you unhappy and unhealthy?  Or can you be unhealthy and happy at the same time?

Source: USA Today